How the Rock on Your Finger Ruins Love

For years he’s been part of my life. He’s not perfect and often I can’t understand the decisions he’s making. However, there’s one special quality that makes him unique. Deep in my soul I know that he’ll be at my side whenever I need his help or support. He’s a guardian angel in the storm of life and I know that he’ll turn the world upside down to be at my side in challenging times.

Although my loving husband shares all these qualities … I’m not talking about him, instead, I am talking about a best friend.

Where’s the link to the headline of this post?

There’s a big myth about happy love relationships and marriage.

Couples believe that love is the key to make their relationship succeed. And the engagement ring is the symbol of their eternal love. When they exchange this ring at the wedding ceremony they all firmly trust that the ring’s spell will make their honeymoon last forever.

The fact is, divorce rates all over the world prove that something else is missing.

It makes me sad to see the weeds of harshness and rudeness growing in couples’ loves and lives, especially when an incredibly simple thing would keep them living at their home addresses called “Seventh Heaven.” I’m talking about friendship.

The National Bureau of Economic Research published a survey, conducted by Prof. John Helliwell and his colleague Shawn Grover, concluding not only that marriage makes people happier, but that being married to your best friend makes you extra happy. 

“A friend is someone who knows the song in your heart and can sing it back to you when you have forgotten the words.”

— Unknown Source

While love is linked to a feeling, friendship is linked to a special kind of behavior. When partners treat each other like their best friend then the happiness in their love relationship increases significantly. There is lots more attentiveness and sensitivity in their behavior, and the feelings of appreciation, respect and trust will grow.

“There’s an important difference between love and friendship. While the former delights in extremes and opposites, the later demands equality.”

— Françoise D'Aubigné Maintenon

That’s why couples should exchange two rings at the wedding ceremony …

… one ring as a symbol of eternal love and another ring as a symbol of endless friendship.

As a first step, remember the strong qualities you offer as a best friend. When facing a challenge in your love relationship imagine reawakening those qualities, while talking to your partner. Help your spouse find the way out of overwhelming emotions and be a solid guide like a lighthouse at night. 

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Thank you for reading. I hope this article created an AHA moment for you and I look forward to continuing this journey together in the next post. 

And always remember …

Your best love and life are waiting.

Walk the way and sing the song to make it happen.

August 12th, 2015